Are you feeling afraid to try anal for the first time?

You're not alone.

In fact, I was just like you.

But one unexpected change in my relationship made me go for it.

Do you want to know what that was?

Then keep reading.

First off, let's face it; there's a stigma around anal sex.

It's often portrayed as dirty, painful or even taboo.

As a result, many people may feel apprehensive about trying it.

But, from my experience, there's so much more to it than that.

Let me ask you this: have you ever wondered if the pleasure could be worth the risk?

If so, then you're on the right track because it absolutely can be.

When I first contemplated trying anal, I was riddled with fear.

I worried about pain, cleanliness, and even potential damage.

But, when my partner at the time brought it up, I began to see it from a different perspective.

This person valued our relationship and was willing to explore new territory together.

It made me feel wanted, desired and appreciated.

So, I took a leap of faith, one I will never regret.

The experience wasn't perfect or miraculous, but it was enjoyable.

And, sometimes, that's all we're looking for.

If you're still hesitant, think about this:

Research shows that roughly 90% of males and 80% of females have tried anal intercourse in their lifetime.

So, you're definitely not alone in considering it.

Moreover, if you take some time to learn how to do it correctly, you may prevent any discomfort or even injury.

There are many advocates of anal sex, but you have to make an informed decision based on your preferences and readiness.

In conclusion, trying something new can be intimidating, especially when it comes to sex.

But, remember, it's important to honor your boundaries while also being open and listening to one another.

Don't let the misconceptions or fears cloud your experience or potential growth.

Talk to your partner, communicate openly and, most importantly, trust one another.

Giving in to the uncertainty around not only anal sex but any intimate act can rob us of the joy and fulfilment that comes with exploring and connecting on a deeper level.

So ask yourselves, are you willing to give it a try?

Introduction

Kelsie, a 28-year old woman from Ohio, had always been fearful but curious about trying anal sex. It wasn't until an unexpected change in her relationship that she finally decided to go for it. In this article, we'll compare Kelsie's fears and expectations to the actual experience and discuss how communication and trust in a relationship can make all the difference in taking new sexual endeavors.

Before Trying Anal

Exploring Curiosity

Kelsie had heard about anal sex through friends and media but didn't start considering it herself until recent partners expressed interest or tried bringing it up mid-sex. Despite being shy and resorting to giggles, Kelsie was still interested in seeing what it was about from a female pleasure standpoint.

Fears and Concerns

Kelsie’s biggest fear was experiencing pain: “I’ve read a lot of horror stories online, and it sounded like it was really something that could go wrong.” Other concerns included cleanliness, hygiene, preparation, and long-term consequences such as health problems or stretched-out muscles.

The Decision to Try

It wasn't until Kelsie met her current partner, who was sensitive to her comfortability and encouraged exploration in the bedroom, that she felt comfortable enough to try anal with them. They normalized discussing questions and concerns in preparations for the act and reassured each other on their consent.

During the Act

Preparation Touchpoints

Due to her apprehensions, neither person rushed into trying anal; they communicated and took time making sure both organic and added lubrication and dilation was progressing as expected.

Unexpected Pleasure/Focus

While it took multiple attempts and the ever-required stopping and reapplying focus, both found they enjoyed the physical sensations and physiological dynamic the act provided that other activities had yet to offer them.

Post-Benzos

Resolving Fear-driven Thoughts

They emphasized positive aftercare, conversations post-act about consent, what parts were enjoyable or uncomfortable, relaxation for future possible intercourse. Concerns melted away with discussions honest about their different experiences.

Encouragement/Desire for the Future

As for any “organ” treating behavior, there is an adjustment period required, so as reports on whether this sexual activity will be ongoing. Through dialogue before and after the act, they reassured spontaneity in future locations due to its overall experience.

Comparing Expectations Vs Realitiuty

Ultimately, Kelsie had the unexpected but amazing realization that her fears had no foundation when there was genuine trust and communication in the romantic relationship during intimacy.

If you're new to or curious about anal sex, it's completely normal to feel scared or unsure beforehand. However, with proper communication, preparation, and patience, it can become an enjoyable and intimate experience for both partners.

In my case, a change in my relationship dynamic gave me the courage I needed to try something new and push past my fears. And although it wasn't perfect and we encountered some challenges along the way, we learned and grew closer as a result of exploring this newfound aspect of our intimacy.

Whatever your reasons may be for considering anal play, remember that it should always be a consensual and comfortable decision made between partners. And if you do decide to try it, don't forget the importance of communication, relaxation, and plenty of lube.

Thanks for stopping by my post on my first time trying anal - I hope it has helped inform and inspire you in some way. Remember to always be safe and communicative in your sexual experiences, and keep exploring what feels right for you and your partner.